For Some, A Not So Jolly Holiday - December 2023

        Love, joy, a sense of wonder, memories, happiness, togetherness, celebrations, sharing time with family and friends. These are all things associated with the holiday season. But for some, the holiday season can spark feelings of loneliness, isolation, sadness, or loss. The reasons for these feelings are many. It could be due to being away from loved ones, a major life change, living alone, being homebound, or dealing with a loss be it recent or some time ago. Whatever the reason, the holidays seem to heighten the focus on these feelings. You may be feeling this way or know someone who is. No matter what, here are some helpful tips. 
 

• REMEMBER, you are not alone. It is okay to feel this way.  Many people do.
• Think about what you expect of yourself. Many people set lofty goals for this time of the year. But remember, no one can do it all! Use those shortcuts or hacks. Rethink your goals and focus on those things that bring you joy.  
• Connect with others.

• Engage in friendly chats or exchange pleasantries with your neighbors or co-workers.
• Use technology to your benefit. Text, call, video chat, do a group chat or share photos. These can go a long way in easing those feelings of loneliness, sadness, and isolation. 

• Reach out to a neighbor or someone you know who may not have family nearby and who spend much of their time alone. Try including them in your family gatherings or invite them over for a cup of coffee, snack, or dessert near the holidays so that they don't feel so alone. Or bring them some tasty holiday treats.

• If you’re grieving a loss (or know someone who is), take the time to acknowledge it. Remember, everybody goes through grief differently. It’s okay to laugh or cry.

• Talk about your feelings and the loss. Some people find it helpful to write their feelings down. Do whatever works for you. 
• Honor your loved one’s memories and traditions. Start new traditions. Maybe light a candle in their memory, say a prayer for them, toast them during a holiday meal, or make a memory ornament.

• Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel. But balance this time with something positive. Try using the time to indulge yourself, like read a good book, make something fancy or buy yourself something special. Be creative. Even try volunteering or doing something to help someone else.
• Take care of yourself, physically, too. Be sure to get enough sleep, stay as active as possible, and eat healthy.